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As many of you know, Hunter (aka RS232) of spysatcentral.net and I were married on October 12th, 2002. The wedding was absolutely WONDERFUL! For the week prior to the wedding though, it was more of a joke to ‘wed or not to wed’. Nothing was misshaped between Hunter and I, but it seems Murphy’s Law was putting us to a MAJOR test.

 

Even though it was stressful at the time, and it seemed like everything was going just the opposite of the way it should, now we can look back on it and laugh so hard at the chaos that led up to the wedding. Believe you me, It is a heck of a good laugh. The wedding was far from Disastrous.. but one can definitely wonder after reading this! 

And the story goes…

Well, after 5 years together as boyfriend/girlfriend, we felt like we had survived everything.. Well, almost everything except marriage.

We had survived some of the most extraordinary fights and fusses, long distance relationships (we met online a year before we actually met in person, and then 2 years later, Hunter moved to Austin, Texas for a year and a half for a job.), and some of the most obnoxious quarrels and spats I have ever had. But, somehow or another, we always managed to work through it and stay together.

On June 15th, 2002, while Hunter was still in Austin - 14 or so hours away - we talked on IRC. He mentioned to me that he wanted to call. There were some things he felt like he should have told me more often that he hadn’t and some things he should have asked.

I bit my lip and thought it was over. I was afraid he was going to say something along the lines of how hard it was to keep a long distance relationship going, that he wanted to date other women and he wanted to ask me if I was seeing any other men. So, I bit the bullet and he called.

I answered the phone and prepared for the worst. We did the “Hi, how are you” and chit-chatted for a few minutes. Then I bit my lip and asked “ok, so what is this you wanted to tell me and ask me?”

Much to my surprise, Hunter answered in a way that totally threw me for a loop. Instead of telling me he was tired of the long distance relationship and it wouldn’t work, he simply told me that he loved me and he should have told me more often.

Very stunned, I replied that I loved him also. I enjoyed not only him being a part of my life, but in my life as well. I let him know. The long distance thing for a year and a half was hard, but he made time and effort to come and see me when he visited in town a few times a year, and I did my best to come and visit him whenever I could.

So, I proceeded to ask him what he wanted to ask me. He basically told me to make sure I was sitting down, because he had some news that would knock my socks off.

Sitting down in my chair in front of the computer, I told him I was. I could never have imagined in a million years what his question was.

He asked me to marry him! I spent the next 10-15 minutes spitting a mouthful of soda on the monitor, choking, falling out of my chair (and YES! it hurt when I hit the floor) and then stuttering. He reassured me this was no joke, he was very serious about wanting to get married.

Through all of my coughing, aching and spitting soda on the monitor, I could not get an answer out. He asked ‘Does this mean no?’

I quickly reassured him it was a yes! He then decided he wanted to move back to where I lived and the rest is history.. well, almost

Here is how the rest went:

Saturday morning, October 5th

Everything has been going wonderful! We couldn’t have been happier. Between planning a wedding, being a working mom, I actually seemed ahead of schedule and seemed to have all the last minute things taken care of.

Saturday night

Our son (8 years old) has had a tummy ache the past few days. We figured it was just nerves or maybe a bug. Saturday night, he doubled over at dinner for the 4th night in a row with pains in his stomach. After dinner, we decided to take him to the hospital just to make sure it wasn’t more serious than a stomach bug.

Well, the doctor came in the ER and announced they had figured out what was causing his stomach problems. I went into shock when the Doctor said it was pancreatitis. An inflammation of the pancreas. I knew from my medical background, this was rare for a child. In my sons case, it was even more rare. He did not fit any of the profiles for a child that would acquire this disorder. He had never been sick before outside of the normal cold and flu. He had always been a healthy child. He had no history of digestive problems. I about fell on the floor when I was told he was going to be admitted to the hospital.

Sunday morning

After staying in the hospital with our son all night, I was exhausted. He is our ring bearer for the wedding. We could not have this wedding without him. Not just because of being ring bearer, but because this was a major life change for him. It would break his heart if he wasn’t at the wedding.

The Doctors still had no idea what was causing his pancreatitis and they did not have any idea when he would be out of the hospital. There was a chance he would not be out before the wedding.

Monday and Tuesday

Still no word from the doctors on why this was happening. Still no word on when Drew would be out of the hospital. I went ahead and talked with staff of the hospital about arranging it so if Drew was not out, we could being the wedding to him and have it at the Hospital’s chapel. If we had to wheel him down the isle with an IV in his arm, we would not let him miss this big day for our family.

Wednesday

My parents and sister came in from out of town to help out. We still had no word on Drew. My sisters flight came in late to the connecting airport (5 minutes before her flight departed for the final destination). Because of the flight being late she, as well as everyone else on the plane trying to get to the final destination missed the next flight. She did make it in , but by the time she got here, instead of it being around 8pm that night, it was about 1am the next morning.

Thursday

We find out there is a chance that our son will be out by Saturday morning. He is able to keep liquids down without his stomach hurting, after being on an IV for 5 or so days. Cross our fingers and hope for the best!

Friday afternoon

YA! He is eating solid foods again without his stomach hurting! He will be discharged from the hospital around noon! Things are looking so much better!

Friday evening

At the rehearsal dinner, One of my bridesmaids can’t make it. The show must go on! After a walk through, we decide to go over to my fiancés parents house for dinner. His father (also our minister) did not arrive back at the house for diner. After a few phone calls, we find out his car broke down with transmission problems. Oh Boy!

So, they decide to take my fiancés car back and have his towed. Well.. would you believe it.. then my fiancés car breaks down - it over heats! Aye yi yi! I wonder can anything else go wrong?? Finally, everyone gets back to the house and things are back to normal. We get home about 10pm that night exhausted.

Early Saturday morning

I awaken to someone calling my name. My fiancé has woken up with severe pain in his abdomen. The first thing I say barely awake was ‘Kidneys?’ He shakes his head and is afraid it might be his appendix. Oh boy… our wedding day and we are headed back to the same hospital my son was released from a little over 12 hours ago from. Looking on the bright side, we still have the chapel at the hospital and the conference room reserved for the wedding and reception! Was it just coincidence that the chapel was filled with mauve and light blue and tan colours? the same colours that are in our wedding??.

Later that morning

Good news! It is not appendicitis. At first, the doctors thought it might be a kidney stone. After that was ruled out, it was decided it might have been a gall stone and we are told to go to a follow up and keep an eye out if he has any more pain.

9am

All of the bridal party meets back at the house. Everyone diveys out what must be done and we all get started getting everything ready for 2pm that afternoon. Things are finally working out smooth and we decide the show WILL go on! (As if id let my fiancé out of this that easily! hehe)

12:00pm

We walk out of the hair styling salon. Oh no.. a Front is coming through and it has begun sprinkling. Our wedding is outside!

1:30pm

Everyone except me leaves to go to the wedding. Oopppsss! Now that everyone has left, I don’t have anyone to help me zip up my dress in the back! I finally get it but i get a smudge of makeup on my dress. On the way there (its like 5 minutes away) , I pull over in the parking lot of a bank and quickly do my nails. (I had taken my nail polish off going to the hair salon in hopes of having enough time to do them later. EEEkk I had forgotten. Not to mention, the nail polish is a very deep red. If i spill this on my dress… ack! luckily it is quick drying polish and I don’t spill any.

1:55pm

I arrive at the wedding site. It is sprinkling outside. About half of the people supposed to come didn’t show up. I figure it was due to the weather.

2:15pm

The wedding has started. It is still sprinkling, so Instead of just using the log cabin as background scenery, we all decide to huddle inside the log cabin!

It went wonderful! I couldn’t help it, but i cried big crocodile tears. I could keep the tears from running while we were saying vows. Everything went wonderful. The misting weather made wonderful scenery at the covered picnic tables after the ceremony. No matter what trials and tribulations we had.. everything couldn’t have turned out better! I wouldn’t have traded our wedding for anything and I look forward to many many wonderful years of our lifetime together